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Just a thought that I had occur to me as I was giving advice to a friend of mine. Also, been guilty of this myself, even more so when I felt my partner holding back. But, someone has to be the first to open up if the relationship is to work harmoniously.

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It sometimes works that way, not always. I do think if one doesn't communicate openly and honestly with their partner, though, that they have no right to expect their partner to do so with them.

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Bozette 6 days ago

Some people have an inability to come true to their feelings, for whatever reason, whether it's a mental disorder or fear, but if there's one thing communicated, is that coming true with insecurities and everyone has at least one, can make it understandable why one is silent about eir feelings sometimes. We don't need couples therapy to work it out, but just need time to find a way to communicate it.

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Tanor_Faux 6 days ago

I have problems letting people near me.

These days, even more than previously, which was already bad enough.

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ZonkeyBalls 6 days ago

In response to “I have problems letting people near...

I went through a phase like this myself, when I seemed to be losing every person that was ever close enough to open my heart to.

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Vrendowl 6 days ago

No, I don't think that's a fair statement.

Some people make assumptions about what others think of them. Maybe they are right, maybe not.

Your logic would lead me to believe that if I shared my feelings that my partner must have shared theirs. Does not compute.

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Budwick 6 days ago

In response to “No, I don't think that's a fair...

As I wrote in further explaining, someone has to be first. Also, the entire point of actually communicating erases any assumptions.

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Vrendowl 6 days ago

In response to “As I wrote in further explaining, someone has...

I see, cuz just like here, everything is always clearly, 100% understood.

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Budwick 6 days ago

In response to “I see, cuz just like here, everything is...

Don't share this around, but...

I like you, Bud.

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ZonkeyBalls 6 days ago

In response to “Don't share this around, but... I like you, Bud.

Your secret is safe with me Zonk!

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Budwick 6 days ago

probably, but you have to

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TomboyJanet 6 days ago

It apparently doesn't matter what your feelings are if the other person doesn't feel the same way so why express how you feel...

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symplycurious 5 days ago

Every person is different, but yes there is probably a general trend like you're suggesting.

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Zolfie 5 days ago

depends on person but most of the time it goes that way

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WonderMan 3 days ago

I would say that, if a person feels like they need to hold back their feelings a little bit for whatever reason, that's not necessarily a bad thing, and the other person can agree to live with that. I guess it can be a matter of compromise, and it depends a lot on the nature of each relationship.

I'm not in a relationship, but, if I was, and I didn't communicate my feelings due to anxiety or whatever difficulty, I would be conscious that my partner might be doing the same thing. That can surely be nervewracking to realize.

But sometimes people feel like they can't just let their feelings out without understanding them better, and the only thing that can be done then is to ask for your partner's understanding on that, and to be understanding of your partner if they need to do the same.

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primeiro 3 days ago

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