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"My parents were spanked and paddled in the 50s. They grew up fine and never laid a hand on me.
Still, it is my firm belief that spanking a child is completely unnecessary. It doesn't teach any lesson other than 'don't get caught' and 'it's okay to hurt people if I feel they deserve it.' Spanking is the easy way out for parents who aren't creative enough to find other ways to discipline."
I've seen too many kids who weren't disciplined, and it reflects in their behavior. I've also seen too many adults who weren't disciplined and learned no self discipline. It is also often reflected in their behavior. Time outs didn't work 30 years ago and they don't work today.
“It’s okay to hurt people if I feel they deserve it”
Discipline and respect are never outdated.
I didn’t say discipline or respect
I’m saying spanking and other methods of physical pain
Are you saying teachers should not be allowed to spanks students as well?
teachers no they are paid to know ways to control kids. Nuns whacking hands was not nice but those kids paid attention.
My first year of school was in a Catholic school. Nuns had riding crops. I kept my mouth shut.
JJ so there you go it did work didn't it. I never knew they went to riding crop s . Just think if it was today they would have tasers.
This was back in 1960. I only saw one kid get whacked with it, but everyone else saw it as well. Just seeing it was effective enough to keep me in line.
You're right, time outs didn't work 30 years ago and don't work now.
I was spanked, but it was never a very effective punishment for me. Now when my parents would fight and yell at each other, that got me to shut up.
Funny I never got spanked just the threat made me behave - while it did nothing to my sister she got licked about every day for one thing or another.
I dont have kids, so i cannot speak of what doesnt work.
I know i got it with a belt, from my mother, when i was bad. Kept me in line when she was looking.
You learned, actions have consequences..<s>
My mom was so mad at me one time (can't remember what I did) she drove a fork in my quad. True story. She still talks about today.
Kids can sent mothers over the edge:[
I did that a few times too much.
Ya my mom used to say she would go get a pillow and pound on it instead of me when i was a baby. Soon as I got a brain words were all I needed.
That was awful, bet you stopped what you were doing right??
Oh yeah ... mom was the boss, lol
I don't remember being spanked as a child, but I do remember being threatened. I did spank my kids when they deserved it. Just with my hand, and they grew up fine..... If more parents spanked their kids now, we wouldn't have so many kids disobeying any kind of authority. My kids knew they would be spanked when they disobeyed, so we never had a problem. The never ever rebelled against us. I would definitely recommend it to any parent.
I believe it's a matter of balance. I believe in spanking quite frankly. As Jim alluded to, the sooner children learn there are consequences for bad behavior, the sooner the behavior gets modified. If I were dealing with Congress, I'd go right to the leather belt.
I was never spanked, thankfully, as my parents didn’t believe in corporal punishment. (I was a very sensitive kid who cried a lot; physical punishment would have only made things worse). However, not all kids are the same, and I do grant that for some kids, it may be the only thing that works; I’m glad that I never drove my parents to that kind of desperation.
Though some contend any form of physical correction equates to child abuse, there is a giant chasm between a mild spanking properly administered out of love and an out-of-control adult venting their emotions by physically abusing a child.
Corporal discipline should only be applied in cases of willful disobedience or defiance of authority—never for mere childish irresponsibility. And it should never be administered harshly, impulsively, or with the potential to cause physical harm.
I've always thought so...but some kids really test ones creativity...
They sure do
I never ever smacked my four kids and they have all grown up to be great parents and I'm proud how they turned out....I respected them and they respected me....
JD you are perfect in every way right!
Far from it...
wish we had better smilies
I was spanked as a child, say what you want about it, but it works.
Yes it does.
With the name you use, you never turned out very nice, hate to meet you...so it must not have made any difference...hehe
Nothing wrong with spanking a kid in moderation of course.
Surely there's other ways to teach discipline and consequences
What other ways? I young child is like a puppy not much brain yet, so a simple tap gets their attention - your words don't mean much to them.
You are rite. What kid didn't know - inherently - when truth was spoken and when it wasn't... especially from adults?
Getting spanked as a kid is the reason why I like it today, I see no problem
spare the rod
spoil the child
how's that working out for society?
you can talk till you are blue in the face telling a kid
normal people use soap to wash clothes
but since you are NOT normal
keep munchin till you had your fill
Kids respond to discipline differently. Good parents figure out what is needed to teach respect and bad parents only repeat what they were taught. It perpetuates the same issues in every generation.
spanking is successful . Not beating but fast slap on the **** never hurt a kid. Gets their attention faster than yelling 1 2 3 or all that.
If you love a kid it doesn't make much difference if you beat him or not.
If you don't love a kid it doesn't make much difference if you beat him or not.
Sometimes ... but not always. Sometimes a spanking gets the message across, when talking or other punishments have failed.
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